Confession #1: I started this blog because I wanted to impress a guy. Turns out he didn't much care for me, but "us" wasn't his purpose in my life. This blog was. I've never known what I wanted to be when I grew up. All of the people around me seemed to have passions and talents and I just didn't. (wait - unless beer drinking counts) When people would ask, "What's the one thing you'd do if you knew you couldn't fail?", I had no answer. It wasn't until I started this blog, trying to impress a guy by writing about my horrific post-divorce dating experiences, that I found my missing spark in life. So while I didn't get the guy, I did get this corner of the internet and a little something I like to call "purpose." It doesn't suck.
Confession #2: This is hard work. Blogging isn't just writing and posting. It's self-discovery, it's building relationships, it's finding your niche, your voice, and being brave enough to use that voice - to stand naked - and let the masses judge. (masses, 11 readers, whatever). Daily, I read my fellow blogger's posts and think, Hang it up - you're not even on the same playing field as these guys. Every day I have to remind myself that I'm writing because I love to write. That this is my journey, no one else's. And the only person I should be comparing myself to, is the me of yesterday.
Confession #3: I care way too much about what others think and I'm an asshole. Let me explain- After having a hot ass Latino man walk into my life, (not the guy above) the emergency brake was yanked on my dating scene. No dating scene = no blog entries. Or so I thought, since dating was all I'd ever written about. It wasn't until October of last year that I began writing about other things in my life. The first person to befriend me on my blogging journey was a very talented writer named Marissa, whom I am honored to call my friend. Her blog is Confessions of a Failing Domestic Goddess, (click on it!) and in January, she awarded me a Liebster Award! I've done nothing with it. Asshole, I know.
Sidebar - for those of you who don't know, a Liebster Award is a blogging award given from one blogger to another. It's the sports equivalent of a slap on the ass by a teammate. Your job, then, is to pass that award along to bloggers you think are slap-dat-ass-tastic.
Word apparently hadn't gotten out that I'm Liebster loser, because a couple of days ago, I was awarded another Liebster Award by a new and talented blog friend at Bad Word Mama, (click on it!). I am so incredibly flattered by both awards, I can't even tell you. But I was paralyzed. Paralyzed by the fear that paying the award forward would irritate my nominees. What if the blogs I award don't want to participate? What if all my hundred dollar bills won't fit into my wallet? What if my boobs are too perky?
Lord help me if I ever have any real problems.
But then, like a glittery, fairy blog-mother beckoning me through the internets, I stumbled upon a comment with the most enticing blog entry title that I had to click on it (Epically Awesome Kittens with Diarrhea and a Coupon). It led me to a blogger whom I have come to love. She doesn't know I love her, this is a secret blog crush - her blog is My Life as Lucille. If you click on that link, it will take you to the entry that completely eradicated my fear of the blog award.
I know, I know...just keep reading
So, to Marissa and Ellen - I'm in the process of writing my acceptance speeches and answering my questions - I will post soon. I am so grateful to the both of you for believing in my little blog and I'm ready to pay it forward.